If you are selected by someone as a friend vent, blessed are you. That suggests by someone you trust to know the secret (in this case the problem was happened) and the (more powerful) is believed to provide a one input know can help. Because of the great trust that, it's good you do not hasty in giving advice / input.
Some tips to keep in mind in responding to vent one's:
1. Make sure that he really needs your advice
The most important thing is to make sure people who are talking to you your advice is needed, lest he really just wanted to you listen. The most annoying thing is to listen to people others talk when you want him to listen.
2. What was your goal to give advice to someone, to good or good for you?
This is also one of the mistakes that are often not realized by anyone at the time he will start advice, not less lho people who give advice only to those others regard it as the wise. Your goal is to deliver advice for the good of your fellow himself at a later date, not that you are considered hero.
3. Listen to each story carefully presented
It's good before giving advice to someone, your first listening to sad story first, not until you've set up deh effective response before the story finished. Listen carefully, and think first before giving feedback. Take your time alone.
4. Be careful, without offending anyone
When you give someone an advice, make sure you dont insult someone else (although you really hate that person). Maybe your friend request suggestions how to deal with womanizer girlfriend who happens to you do not like, but do not ever comment on the tone condescending person (even if he / she deserves it). You better be neutral, than trouble in the future.
5. Give some alternative options
In giving advice, try as much as possible to give some alternative way that can be done / taken. Let your friends to decide which option to be taken, because it is his life. If you are selected, He later blamed yourself if the solution does not work.
6. If not, better still
Associated with the 3 points, you feel your reply was not able to provide opinion, not better enforced. Maybe then your own mood was bad or dead-end mind again. You better frankly to your friend, he must appreciate your honesty.
7. Do not be offended if he does not run your advice
Advice was just wrote for a consideration, the rest is up to people who run. So, no offense ya kalo he was doing the opposite with your advice. His name is also human, each had a thought alone.
Hopefully these tips above can help you become a good friend of vent. Isn't it good to help others in need?
1. Make sure that he really needs your advice
The most important thing is to make sure people who are talking to you your advice is needed, lest he really just wanted to you listen. The most annoying thing is to listen to people others talk when you want him to listen.
2. What was your goal to give advice to someone, to good or good for you?
This is also one of the mistakes that are often not realized by anyone at the time he will start advice, not less lho people who give advice only to those others regard it as the wise. Your goal is to deliver advice for the good of your fellow himself at a later date, not that you are considered hero.
3. Listen to each story carefully presented
It's good before giving advice to someone, your first listening to sad story first, not until you've set up deh effective response before the story finished. Listen carefully, and think first before giving feedback. Take your time alone.
4. Be careful, without offending anyone
When you give someone an advice, make sure you dont insult someone else (although you really hate that person). Maybe your friend request suggestions how to deal with womanizer girlfriend who happens to you do not like, but do not ever comment on the tone condescending person (even if he / she deserves it). You better be neutral, than trouble in the future.
5. Give some alternative options
In giving advice, try as much as possible to give some alternative way that can be done / taken. Let your friends to decide which option to be taken, because it is his life. If you are selected, He later blamed yourself if the solution does not work.
6. If not, better still
Associated with the 3 points, you feel your reply was not able to provide opinion, not better enforced. Maybe then your own mood was bad or dead-end mind again. You better frankly to your friend, he must appreciate your honesty.
7. Do not be offended if he does not run your advice
Advice was just wrote for a consideration, the rest is up to people who run. So, no offense ya kalo he was doing the opposite with your advice. His name is also human, each had a thought alone.
Hopefully these tips above can help you become a good friend of vent. Isn't it good to help others in need?
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